What is the Next Chapter?

Have you ever thought of your life as a book?  Sometimes people frame their lives as a narrative or a story.  Perhaps they see themselves as the hero of the tale or maybe as the victim.  But let’s imagine that when our lives are said and done, they represent a complete book. Think about it…

Why Should I Cherish My Spouse?

Over the decades, wedding vows have changed from pretty traditional and predictable to often very inventive.  In the more traditional vows, the word “cherish” was often included.  I still remember some of the lyrics of the song “Cherish” by the Association, performed in the 60’s. Cherish is the word I use to describe All the…

Do Values Matter?

Values are important.  We talk about them in school, at home, in political circles, and even on a global human scale.  But how important are values?  Or maybe a better question is, when are values important?  Perhaps even still, the best question is, what determines whether or not a value is significant and worthy of…

I Assumed You Knew

It has been a long week, working long hours with unexpected emergencies at the office, and frankly, you’re exhausted.  You are so very much looking forward to Saturday on the couch with an afternoon of college football.  As you gather your favorite snacks and beverages, you flip on the TV.  You are just about to…

Has Your Mind Been Hijacked?

“Perhaps sometimes when I smell freshly baked cookies, my brain can’t think about anything else except getting one of those cookies.  So, I suppose it gets hijacked then.”  True, but I am referring to hijacking that actually impacts our ability to rationally process our thoughts. In a research study conducted with 520 subjects at the…

Don’t You Love to Suffer?

Not Me!  You are probably thinking that is a pretty dumb question and I can understand your sentiment.  I don’t think most of us would choose to suffer, yet, in a variety of ways, we all experience suffering.  But have you ever considered that suffering can make you stronger? Two psychologists from the University of…

What if They have the Answer?

Everyone has struggled in their marriage at some point.  And we have all heard the elevated statistics in the U.S. for divorce for first marriages, with numbers for second marriages being even more dismal.  But what about those who successfully remain married for decades?  What if they have some of the answers? Earlier this year,…

Can You Hang Up on Anxiety?

Can You Hang Up on Anxiety? Wouldn’t it be nice if it were only that easy?  But what if there were something you could do that would help diminish anxiety?  A study that comes out of the University of Texas suggests that there just might be. The typical cell phone user pulls out and uses…