Most of us, at one time or another, have been in situations when we were angry, frustrated, or perhaps disappointed in our mate. This is normal. But the question then is, what do you do with those emotions? Some might answer, “Well, I go somewhere quiet and decompress.” “I reflect on what happened to see…
I recently read an article regarding Victoria Evans, a female rower who set a new world record for the fastest solo crossing of the Atlantic by a woman. Victoria made the trip in 40 days and 19 hors. She talked about various challenges that she had along the way. For example, she managed to lock…
“Connecting practices? You mean like playing with the toys?” No, that would be K’nex (Don’t worry – I didn’t know it was spelled that way either). I am talking about normal practices that you have with your spouse, your kids, or even your grandkids. For example – do you and your spouse kiss each other…
You may be wondering what I mean by “Where you’re planted.” So, allow me to elaborate. I have encountered many people who are always “going to grow – someday.” They may be thinking – “I can’t reach my potential in this company.” Or, “This city will never be home. I am pining for my roots…
Remember when you were dating your future spouse and you seemed to agree on everything? You wanted two children and so did he. You both liked Italian food, wanted to travel, enjoyed hiking, and had the same spiritual goals. Nothing could be better. However, once you got married, you discovered that you weren’t quite as…
Last time, we began to look at how we can become more effective at setting our future selves up for greater success – and that principle is true whether we are talking about careers, finances, relationships, retirement, and so on. I have counseled so many clients who live with regrets: “I regret not finishing college…
In a quote from a Fortune Magazine article, William H. Whyte said, “The great enemy of communication is the illusion of it.” That is an excellent picture of what so many individuals fall prey to. Your spouse wants you to communicate, so you make every effort to talk more with them. However, even though you…
Now you may be thinking that I’m talking about some kind of self-care, such as getting enough sleep, eating healthy, exercising regularly, meditating, and so on. However, that is not where I’m headed today. Actually, I want to look at how we take care of and prepare for our future selves. I recently had an…
I remember when this phrase was all the rage as part of an advertising campaign for “The National Enquirer Magazine.” And I can’t help but remember that phrase when I think about healthy relationships. You see, one of the hallmarks of healthy marriages is having an inquisitive mind when it comes to your mate. Whether…
Recently, in my Tuesday morning Men’s group, we viewed a video by author Tim Keller. He was talking about the journey of the Israelites to the promised land and pointed out that there were two distinct groups of people. The first group of people were those who left the slavery of Egypt. They saw the…