While that might seem like a strange question, isn’t it one that motivates, or perhaps, haunts us? If we dig a little deeper we will see our tendency to take that questions a step further. We are really often asking, “How am I doing in life in the eyes of others?” Whether we are being…
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Life can be very full and very busy. We can be occupied with going to the gym, raising kids, working in our kid’s classroom, cleaning the house, working a full-time job, and the list goes on and on. It is easy to be so focused on all of the demands of the day and striving…
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What? Can that be real?” Well, according biologist Andrew Steel, medical science is making progress on that very subject. He has written about the field of biogerontology, examining emerging treatments that range from new drugs that can clear out old cells to gene therapies that can actually fix damaged DNA. Steel has found people’s response…
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Now while your first thought might be, “I don’t have any expectations in my relationships,” as you give it a little thought, I believe that you probably do. For example, if you are married, you most likely began the marriage assuming some things with regard to: how money would be managed; how much time you…
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I was touched a few months ago by a demonstration of empathy that was heart-warming but in an unexpected place. It was during an incredible NFL playoff game featuring the Kansas City Chiefs and the Buffalo Bills. It was a hard-fought back and forth game with two outstanding quarter backs – Josh Allen and Patrick…
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It was not that long ago that a read an intriguing article, Which Generation Has The Best Marriages? by Haydin Shaw. For my purposes here I simply want to look at the strengths different generations have to offer one another when it comes to marriage. The Traditionalists (Born before 1946) This group of couples value…
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The “W” questions. Three of these are typically easier to answer than the fourth one. For example – “Who did you meet for lunch?” has a specific answer. “What did you eat at lunch? also is pretty easy to identify.” “Where did you go to lunch?” is determined by a specific location. But “Why did…
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While I have been in the counseling field for over 25 years, I don’t believe that I have ever seen so many of my clients experiencing feelings of anxiety and isolation. Prior to the COVID pandemic, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reported that 20% of Americans felt isolated and lonely. The report…
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I am sure many of you would respond with a variety of answers. I know some whose goal is to be done working by age 50. Others want to work until they are 65. I even have friends who, because of poor saving and spending habits, say they will have to work until the die.…
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What? There’s a problem with independence? Our country was founded on this concept – we even have The Declaration of Independence. How can that not be good? Don’t get me wrong – independence is a wonderful idea in so many ways. But sometimes it can inhibit a healthy relationship. While individuals in a marriage certainly…
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