Old Tapes – Part One

My kids would say that I am showing my age here when I talk about “old tapes.”  Those could be referring to cassettes, VHS, Beta, 8 Track, and so on – if you’re old enough to remember those.  For those of you who are younger – just replace the word “tape” with MP3, flash drive,…

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Are You an Alpha?

Most of us have heard the term “alpha” used in reference to male wolves. It conjures up the image of one who is firmly in charge, running the show, dictating what everyone should be doing. It is a picture of power and control. However, I would contend is an inaccurate characterization of wolves and the…

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Will You Be Stopped?

I was recently drawn in by the words of a Pastor who wrote, “What would you do in the name of love?  The best romantic comedies show us the lengths that people will go to for love.  Great displays of affection, extravagant acts of passion and feeling, beautiful offerings of words and sentiment and devotion. …

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This Feels Eerily Familiar

Remember when you were newlyweds and love oozed out all over?  But then one day you walked in the door and your partner said, “I need to talk with you about something.”  A dark sense of dread enveloped you and you suddenly knew that the honeymoon must be over and you were in trouble.  How…

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How Do You Fight?

People respond in a variety of ways to a question like this.  Some might say (because we all want to appear to be reasonable) that they always calmly and rationally discuss disagreements.  Others would answer with an honest expression of “We yell at each other, get it all out in the open and then we…

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Are You Invested?

Your financial planner might ask you if you are invested in the market, are you diversified, or do you at least have some savings in the bank for a rainy day. But I am not talking necessarily about your money but rather your most important relationship. Are you invested? You might respond with, “Well, yeah,…

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Where Do You Sit?

Earlier this week I had the privilege of being interviewed by a radio station in Ohio.  As we discussed the challenges of marriage, we began to explore the details of relationships that have “gone cold.”  These may be couples who have not given needed attention to their relationship, resulting in a staleness or complacency.  On…

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Do You Have Earworms?

“That’s it!  I knew it.  My kids had ear infections or lice or something last week and I think they somehow gave it to my wife, and now I’ve got it!  I should have known!”  No, no, no.  This is not some kind of creepy crawling thing in your ear (even though it does sort…

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What Are You Feeding?

You come in from work exhausted to the smell of freshly baked bread.  Following the scent, you head for the kitchen but along with way you trip over a toy carelessly left in your path.  Immediately your blood begins to boil.  Arriving in the kitchen you find your spouse who is baking the bread along…

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