Live Longer

“That really makes me mad.”  “I am livid.”  “I’m seeing red.”  These are all statements of anger.  Sometimes we leave anger unexpressed and other times express it – maybe too much or inappropriately. There are a number of anger centers throughout the world that are designed to help people express anger.  At one center in…

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BUT

Why is it that there is such disparity in people’s degree of success, happiness, and enjoyment of life?  There are no simple answers and I am sure there are a variety of contributing factors for these differences.   But one reason, that I want to discuss today is “but.”  It is a word that sometimes is…

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Actions Trump Words

I recently sat with a couple who were in the heat of a disagreement.  They had an argument that morning that had begun small – over a misunderstood comment but was then followed with the phrase “you don’t support me.”  From there things went down hill at full throttle.  But why?  He was completely offended…

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Overcoming Conflict

In a recent interview a number of therapists were asked about recommended strategies for overcoming conflict.  This is such an important topic as unresolved conflict can severely erode the foundation of a relationship to the point that it begins to topple.  I want to adapt a few of their responses today to apply toward the…

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Digital Invasion

I don’t know if you have heard one of those commercials where the mom is texting, the daughter is posting on facebook, the son is playing video games, and the dad is watching sports.  As the commercial continues, it says something to the effect of “this weekend – unplug.”  The commercial reinforces what research is…

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Touch

Touch is an amazing communication tool that is frequently overlooked in marriage.  Now that may seem a strange comment.  I mean, we think of marriage and we think of hand-holding, kissing, and sexual intimacy – we think of touch.  But touch is not just limited to romantic touch. I recently had lunch with a pastor…

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