Kindness

C.S. Lewis, the well-known author of many books including The Chronicles of Narnia, once said, “The worldly man treats certain people kindly because he ‘like’ them: the Christian, trying to treat everyone kindly, finds himself liking more and more people as he goes on – including people he could not even have imagined liking at…

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You Are Contagious

You have a pretty good day at work, no major complications or problems.  You are feeling pretty good – and then you walk in the front door.  Your spouse has not had the same positive day that you have.  He had a conflict with his supervisor, an argument with a co-worker, and his computer’s hard…

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Come Along Side

As I mentioned recently, the Colorado Springs Community has come through a horrific experience with the Black Forest Fire, in which over 500 homes were lost.  One family and their extended family lost five homes amongst them.  Another couple who had lost their home last June in the Waldo Canyon Fire, moved to Black Forest,…

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Mitigation

Mitigation is probably not a word that we here or use a great deal.  But in Colorado, particularly the past year or so, it is a word that has been used quite a bit.  Two weeks ago began the Black Forest Fire, the worst wildfire in Colorado history, resulting in the loss of over 500…

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Unlucky in Love

Beginning in 1986 Terri Orbuch, an author and psychologist commenced a study in which she followed the lives of 373 married couples for over 20 years.  Nearly half of these couples had divorced over the decades (pretty typical numbers), and they shared with the researcher lessons that they had learned as a result of their…

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Weddings

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have the opportunity to be involved in a fair amount of pre-marital counseling with couples.  I am always excited to see couples make this a priority in their relationship steps because it tells me that they are being intentional about protecting the commitment that they are making to…

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How You Say It

Have you ever been told that the problem with your communication is not what you say but how you say it?  Most of us have heard that at one time or another.  Because we may not choose the best phrase or words, what we say is misunderstood and our best intentions go by the wayside. …

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The Real Deal

I recently read a humorous article regarding technology and how comfortable people are becoming with everything from Siri – the female-sounding voice assistant, to that familiar GPS voice.  Technology has certainly come a long ways in helping us – find directions, answer questions, check the weather, to even contacting our loved ones (what a concept). …

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Rejection

You have no doubt heard the phrase (maybe you have even spoken it), “rejection hurts.”  Well a recent study has concluded just how true that may be.  The results, published by the National Academy of Sciences, found that the regions of the brain that respond to physical pain overlap with those that react to social…

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