Feeling Unappreciated?
You get up to go into the kitchen to get a glass of water. Your spouse asks. “When you come back would you bring that small container of ice cream?” Inside your head (maybe outside of your head too) you say, “What am I, your slave?” We have all thought it and most of us…
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I recently came across a long list of behavioral choices that can contribute to a healthy marriage. There were five that jumped off the page at me that I would consider essential. Reserve time for each other at all costs. With the demands of work, kids, parents, friends, and so on, it easy to push…
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She came into my office loaded for bear. The previous weekend she and her husband had gone to his company Christmas party. While there, one of her husband’s co-workers began to talk with him. She giggled as they recounted “inside” jokes and stories regarding customers. In the course of the conversation, she even touched his…
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“Violation” is not a word that we use frequently (unless we spend lots of time in traffic court for speeding), but it is one we feel often. Someone ignores or disrespects us, they take something of ours that doesn’t belong to them, they disregard our feelings, and the list goes on and on. When these…
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American poet Jimmy Santiago Baca once wrote, “Being human without forgiveness is like being a guitarist without fingers.” Most of us think of forgiveness as optional – if I feel like it or if the other person has groveled enough to earn it. But if Baca is correct, then forgiveness is anything but optional –…
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