How Do You Handle Disagreement?

Whether we are talking about a marriage, a work place relationship, or a friendship – most of us would, at least initially, think of disagreements as a negative experience. While I know that it often feels that way, is it really? Disagreements come in all shapes and sizes. Sometime we have minor arguments – such…

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How Do You Resolve Conflict?

You get home from work and once again your spouse has . . . . (fill in the blank).  It could be – left the dirty dishes in the sink, didn’t feed the dog, left the dirty laundry on the floor, or numerous other possibilities.  And with this repeated annoyance – the conflict begins. What…

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How Do You Shape Your Memory?

We usually don’t think about memory in the context of it being something we shape.  Either we have a good memory or we don’t, or so we think. However, it is not really a questions of will we remember things but more one of which things will we remember? For example, if your time is…

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How Do You Stop the FIght?

I sit with couples on a regular basis who argue and fight. They tell about their conflicts at home and they frequently live those conflicts out in my office. Fortunately, when they are sitting with me, I am often able to redirect them or get them to pause their thinking and consider other possibilities. When…

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How Do You Support?

There is a story told that “Following a parade, the mayor of a large American city was walking with his wife when they passed a man sweeping the streets.  The wife recognized the street sweeper as one of her old high school boyfriends.  The three had a short conversation before the mayor and his wife…

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How Do You Use Your Friends?

Now that may seem like a strange question. You may be thinking, “I don’t want to ‘use’ my friends. That wouldn’t be good.” And I agree. I am asking more about the role that your couples friends play in your own marriage. For example, I know of couples who feel as though their mate never…

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