Is Communication an Illusion?

In a quote from a Fortune Magazine article, William H. Whyte said, “The great enemy of communication is the illusion of it.” That is an excellent picture of what so many individuals fall prey to. Your spouse wants you to communicate, so you make every effort to talk more with them. However, even though you…

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Is Co-Parenting Difficult?

Yes!  Co-parenting can be extremely challenging as parents frequently arrive at the table with two very different views of just what good parenting looks like.  But as tough as that is, what happens if you add a divorce to the mix?  If you are divorced, you are probably thinking, “Trying to co-parent is worse than…

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Introduction

Greetings!  I am Dr. Barry Ham.  If you are receiving this initial “Relationships Tips Tuesdays”, it is probably for one of several reasons . . . . . . it may be that you purchased my book God Understands Divorce: A Biblical Message of Grace, sometime during the past year; or you may have signed…

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Intention vs. Consequence

I recently sat with a couple in my office as they described a conflict they encountered.  It seems that the husband and wife had agreed to meet at a restaurant for dinner one evening.  The husband was held up at a meeting that ran long and arrived about a half hour late.  This was not…

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Infidelity

I sit with couples on a regular basis who have been impacted by infidelity.  And I am not talking only about a physical affair.  While unfaithfulness can certainly be sexual, it can just as easily be emotional.  It can be engaged in online or in person.  As I have written about in previous posts, a…

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If He Loves Me . . .

When life gets challenging, we all need understanding and support – especially from our spouse.  While we all agree with that, or at least we think we do, I would ask, “What are we talking about?”  You see when someone says “support” it is easy to think we all mean the same thing but oftentimes…

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