Imagine that you received a promotion at work that came with a nice raise in your salary. This is a pleasant surprise and will provide money that you had not expected. So, what would you do with it? You are excited to share the news with your spouse, but when you do, a conflict ensues.…
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“Well,” you may think, “That’s a dumb question. Of course I want to slow aging but there is just no way to do it. The candles on the birthday cake just keep adding up.” While it is true that our aging numbers get larger every year, that doesn’t mean that we have to age at…
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First, if you are not familiar with oxytocin, in short, it is a chemical in the brain “believed to be involved in controlling fear, stress, social interactions, love, empathy, and the bonding with and acceptance of others.” It is a chemical that can strengthen good and positive feelings. Who wouldn’t want that? Last time I…
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When thinking about play, you may relegate it to children. I mean, as an adult, I don’t typically get down on the floor and play with trucks, cars, and transformers. But I certainly do when my grandkids are around. But how about when someone knocks on your door (figuratively speaking) and invites you to play.…
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The question that I am asking is this – do kids prefer people or animals? In a universal ethical principles game developed by MIT researchers, some surprising results were revealed. When children were placed in a hypothetical situation that involved human versus animal life, they frequently chose to send a car careening into a person…
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That almost sounds similar to a set up question like, “Are you sitting down?” However, I am genuinely asking you if you see yourself as calm? If you are like a major percentage of the population your honest answer may be “No.” I mean think about it – pandemic, inflation, fires, floods, wars and increased…
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As we have looked at the faces of commitment in our last three times, we have examined the importance of following through on the things that we say we will do, remembering the big picture during times of conflict, and how we treat our mate when he or she is not present. In this final…
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You may be thinking, “I certainly hope I don’t have Pssta . . . Pasta . . . whatever that word is. It sounds awful.” Pistanthrophobia is the fear of trusting others. For most people it comes about because they have been hurt by those in whom they have trusted. Childhood wounds are some of…
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As we have looked at commitment in our last two times, we have examined the importance of following through on the things that we say we will do and remembering the big picture during times of conflict. Today I want to look at how we treat our mate when he or she is not present.…
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People perceive us in a variety of ways. We may have a stellar reputation for quality work. Perhaps people think of you and they see someone who is always running late. Or maybe when you come to mind, other people’s thoughts go to – lazy, dependable, giving, selfish, caring, handicapped, lonely, grieving, and so on.…
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