Practice Makes Perfect

I used to hate hearing that as a kid when Mom would say that in reference to the piano lessons that I detested. It wasn’t that I didn’t like the piano, it was just that I hated the weekly lessons with the teacher’s expectations exhibited through critical eyes. At least that was how it felt.…

What are Your Accomplishment Goals?

That seems like a reasonable enough question. I mean everyone needs goals for what they would like to accomplish – right? While that certainly may be true, the question turns into what kinds of things do we want to accomplish and are there differences that matter? Things that people want to accomplish run the gamut.…

Who are You Trying to Fool?

 In 1774, future President John Adams penned the following: We see every day that our imaginations are so strong and our reason so weak, the charms of wealth and power are so enchanting, and the belief of future punishments so faint that men find ways to persuade themselves to believe any absurdity, to submit to…

Can You Wait?

 Author and therapist Eric Scalise writes, “We now live in the most technologically connected, but relationally disconnected, culture this country has ever experienced.” “Goodness, what did people do when they had an hour commute home from work and were unable to connect with a family member . . . unless, of course, they wanted to…

Steps to Prevent Brain Drain!

Over recent months I have occasionally written about some of the dangers of too much technology use and its impact on everything from our brain to our relationships. Today I want to borrow and adapt some insightful suggestions from brain expert Dr. Daniel Amen regarding steps we can take to increase our healthiness in these…

Why is Change so Difficult?

Sitting with a couple this afternoon, I listened as the wife, in tears, talked about the repeated negative cycles she and her husband experience – and re-experience. It seems that her husband works to make changes, but after a couple of weeks, defaults to old patterns. Why? Many times it has to do with a…