Last week we began a look at some thoughts in light of the new movie, Fifty Shades of Grey, and writings on the subject by Hailey Smith.  (If you missed it, you might want to go to the website and read it – http://www.ifitherapy.com/blog/).  We left off with, “We as ladies are living a double standard. We’re real quick to call men out for being pigs or dogs, but we somehow find these books and movies permissible- like they’re not as bad.”

“Here’s the problem with that. Actually, here’s a few problems.”

  1. “It condones the world’s version of sex and ignores God’s version. The movies and books have a completely skewed version of how sex is supposed to work. If you turn on the TV tonight . . . you will have a clear understanding of the world’s view of sex. “Sex is ok if protected.”, “Sex is OK if you’re ‘ready’.” “Sex is meant to be experimented with.”, “Sex can be with different people.”, “Sex is one of those things that ‘just happens’ (can’t control it).”, “It’s ‘just sex’.” “Here’s the intention for sex. Sex was made for married people . . . because sex is an incredibly emotional thing God created. It is as close as you can get to someone. It bares everything- emotionally, physically, the whole nine. Whoever you give yourself to, you need to be able to trust with your whole heart. You can’t count on that with some guy you just met. You can’t count on that with your boyfriend, because he hasn’t committed himself fully to you yet. He hasn’t stood in front of you, God, and everyone else in your life shouting to the world that he will love, cherish, and honor you (and only you) all the days of his life by marrying you.” “Sex is a gift for your spouse. God doesn’t want you wasting it. Sex also creates babies. I don’t know about you, but I want the father of my children to be someone I want to be around the rest of my life. Not just some guy who was cute at the time.”
  1. “It affects the heart. The eyes connect to the mind and the mind connects to the heart. Guarding your eyes will protect your heart. When you allow your eyes to be open to things you know are probably wrong, you’ve allowed even bigger issues to make their way in to your heart.”
  1. “It hurts our relationship with our husbands. Here’s the deal. When you said your vows, you promised you’d honor your husband.”

“So here is my encouragement and challenge to you. I challenge you to reject the world’s definition of marriage and to accept God’s. I challenge you to reject the world’s definition of sex, and to accept God’s.” “I challenge you to encourage your husband. To pray for him.”