I recently received the following humorous story from a friend.
A husband went to police station to report his missing wife:
Husband : I’ve lost my wife, she went shopping yesterday & has still not come home….
Sergeant : What is her height ?
Husband : Oh, 5 something . . .
Sergeant : Build?
Husband : Not slim, not really fat.
Sergeant : Color of eyes?
Husband : Never noticed.
Sergeant : Color of hair?
Husband : Changes according to season.
Sergeant : What was she wearing?
Husband : Dress/suit/blue jeans — I don’t remember exactly.
Sergeant : Did she go in a car?
Husband : yes.
Sergeant : What kind of car was it?
Husband : 2015 Corvette Stingray 3LT with the Z51 Performance Package,
shark gray metallic paint, with the 6.2 liter V8 engine
with Direct Injection generating 460 HP.
8-speed paddle-shift automatic transmission, and GT bucket seats,
and has a very thin scratch on the front left door.…………….
At this point the husband started crying…
Sergeant : Don’t worry sir…….We’ll find your car.
Most of us chuckle when we read this (many wives may roll their eyes). While the story may be an exaggeration, we laugh because it has an all too familiar element of truth. Now I recognize that it is a stereotypical story and that in some relationships the roles may be reversed. But I imagine that you get the point.
What do you treasure – what is most important to you? Do you cherish your most significant relationships or is it more likely to be the car, the furniture, the house, etc.? If you want your partner to feel valued this week, my tip is – alter your focus. Make him or her the primary target of your loving attention. When you do this – they will recognize it as will others. And the positive feelings will soon follow. Try it and see what happens.