As I sat reading the newspaper this past week, my attention was caught by what seemed like a glaring contradiction of values, on the same page. One article was concerning the gut wrenching devastation that was taking place in the Philippines following the destructive typhoon. At that time, there were nearly 2000 dead with a fear that ultimately 10,000 dead would be discovered. Hundreds of thousands were left homeless. It is difficult and even overwhelming to try and grasp those kinds of numbers when it comes to human life. Perhaps it is for that very reason that we find it easier to read the adjacent article on that page regarding the 1 World Trade Center. The builders had wanted to construct the tallest skyscraper in the world at a symbolic 1,776 feet. However, the building is actually 1,368 feet tall, but has a 408 foot tall needle atop of its roof. So, while there are other buildings taller, the Council on Tall Buildings and Urban Habitat, ruled to count the tower and grant the 1 World Trade Center the status of having the tallest building in the U.S.
Now you may be thinking – “ok, that’s interesting, but so what?” I wonder if we don’t do similar things in our relationship with our significant others? We criticize them for what they wear or how they fix their hair – because we deem how they look (according to our own standards) to be of supreme importance. But we find ourselves unable to treat them with love, respect and kindness. Which is more important? We get impatient with our partner when they are taking too long to get ready to go somewhere or are too slow (for our satisfaction) at a given task. And we let them know of our frustrations in no uncertain terms. Yet, when it comes to planning a romantic evening with him or her, or even simply sitting and engaging them in significant heart to heart conversation, we are too busy for that. Which is most important?
It is easy for us to focus on things that seem important and yet miss the things that really are. How can you re-set your sights this week with regards to those important relationships? Decide what is most important – and pursue it with a vengeance.