Most of us, at one time or another, have been in situations when we were angry, frustrated, or perhaps disappointed in our mate. This is normal. But the question then is, what do you do with those emotions? Some might answer, “Well, I go somewhere quiet and decompress.” “I reflect on what happened to see…
DetailsWhile we all know that we are not perfect, and can readily say so, many of us get upset with ourselves when we don’t flawlessly accomplish what we want, when we want, and the way we want. We are humans and make mistakes. I think that is probably one of the trademarks of being a…
Details“Do as I Say . . .”
Did you ever have your parents say to you, “Do as I say, not as I do?” Or worse yet, have you ever made that statement to your own children? The truth of the matter is – the statement is not very brilliant (OK, I’ll just say it – “It’s dumb”), and it has a…
Details“Get On Really Well”
One of my favorite music groups growing up (and still today) was the Beatles. Ringo Starr, who was the group’s drummer, has been married to his wife Barbara for more than 30 years. In this day and age, that is rare, and even more so for a famous musician. He said that the secret to…
Details“Half of my body was taken away from me”
Chelsie Hill had always dreamed of dancing. It was the one thing she most loved to do. It was her ambition. However, in 2010 the high school senior was in a serious auto accident, which left her paralyzed from the waist down. For most of us, this tragedy would be the end of our dream.…
Details“I”
There is a great deal of talk in this day and age regarding “getting my needs met,” “what I need to be fulfilled,” “what I want,” and so on. This generation is often labeled by its needs, expectations, and entitlements. I find it not surprising that in the wave of technological advances, we have the…
Details“Let’s Just Be Friends”
The Millennial Generation (those born after 1981) is growing up in a whole new world when it comes to rules of social engagement. They do not tend to view technology as simply a resource to enhance communication – they see it as the lifeblood of their relationships. And with this comes many dangers. Some of…
Details“Stay Away”
I recall when a little over 20 years ago my boys and I went camping at the Grand Canyon. We had an incredible time and even hiked about half way down into the canyon one day. Now if you have never been there, I should warn you that it is approximately 5000 feet from the…
Details“There is No Try”
If you have ever seen the Star Wars movies, you no doubt remember the wise character of Yoda. While not an imposing figure to look at, his Jedi Knight abilities were a force to be reckoned with. He also had a unique way of phrasing his sentences. One famous quote from the movies was the…
Details“What Do You Mean? I’m Not Defensive!”
Have you ever made that statement or felt that way? If you are human, then you probably have. As I sat with a client yesterday, I was reminded of this very tendency. You see, we don’t like being in the hot-seat, feeling attacked or unfairly accused. Therefore, when we do, our first reaction is usually…
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