Rejection

You have no doubt heard the phrase (maybe you have even spoken it), “rejection hurts.”  Well a recent study has concluded just how true that may be.  The results, published by the National Academy of Sciences, found that the regions of the brain that respond to physical pain overlap with those that react to social…

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Radical Acceptance

I recently heard a client make the statement, “My husband doesn’t accept me.”  When I asked for her to give me more information, she went into a lengthy list: “I go to bed too early, I don’t vacuum correctly, I take too long getting ready in the morning, I don’t set the table the right…

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Put It in Writing

On a past Valentine’s Day, a California based film editor gave his wife a journal.  His thinking was that they could take turns writing to each other.  They found that they both enjoyed this process.  As a matter of fact, his wife expressed the excitement that she feels when she notices that he has replaced…

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Purpose Isn’t Always Glamorous

So, many times when individuals examine or contemplate their “Purpose,” they envision some great calling with astounding results. Things like: discovering a cure for cancer, preaching the Gospel to millions – like Billy Graham, writing best selling novels that thrill readers around the world, or founding an organization to help those in need – such…

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Protect Your Heart

I recently read a letter from a women name Michelle, as related by authors Gary and Barbara Roseberg.  It was such a clear reminder of how vulnerable we are.  When that is combined with carelessness, the results can be devastating.  I want to share that letter here today.   “I helped lead a Bible study…

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Preventable Accident

In 2015 the Colorado Department of Transportation reported 15,307 driving crashes in the state that were caused by distracted driving.  This is a 16% increase over the last four years.  And, as you might guess, the most significant contributor to the rise in numbers is the cell phone.  The spokesman for CDOT stated, “Those who…

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Press Toward the Future

What is in your closet?  You may be thinking about your different clothes or the many pairs of shoes.  But I’m not talking about that closet.  I asking about what is in the closet of your heart?  As you ponder that, you will most likely begin to think about past hurts, scars from broken relationships,…

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Prepare for the Storm

Couples always come to see me for counseling because they are in crisis.  Now you are reading that and probably thinking “Ah, well, yea!”  I know – nothing profound about that.  I sometimes think it would be nice if a potential client called and said something along the lines of, “Hi, my wife and I…

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Practice, Practice, Practice!

How many times have we heard those words in our lives – “practice, practice, practice, “or “practice makes perfect?” I remember as a child hating to hear those words – “it’s time for you to go practice the piano.” I enjoy watching football and seeing skilled players make amazing throws and catches, efficient blocking patterns,…

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Practice Makes Perfect

I used to hate hearing that as a kid when Mom would say that in reference to the piano lessons that I detested. It wasn’t that I didn’t like the piano, it was just that I hated the weekly lessons with the teacher’s expectations exhibited through critical eyes. At least that was how it felt.…

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