I see couples daily who aren’t connected. Oh, they used to be – whether to was while they were dating or in those early years of marriage. But somewhere along the way, things became routine, they got bored, and they just sort of drifted apart. And now they find themselves married, but feeling lonely. It doesn’t have to remain that way. What I want to suggest today is not earth shattering, but I want to offer five small steps that can improve your connectivity with your partner.
1) Share with your spouse what’s on your mind. Rather than ruminate about something, be open with him or her. Along with this you might want to ask them what they are thinking as well. Showing interest in each other’s thoughts can definitely improve connection.
2) Put your phone away – at least during meals, but maybe for the entire evening. Nothing says you are important more than disconnecting from everyone else’s digital hold on you. You are stating – “You are my priority.”
3) Connect before coming and going. Saying hello when you get home or goodbye when you are leaving may seem like a small thing, but that regular greeting is cumulative in creating good will and anticipation.
4) When watching TV, sit together, hold hands, and maybe snuggle up on the couch. Maybe you haven’t held hands in years, but now is a great time to start. I would even suggest you take it step further. Hold hands when you are out walking or shopping. Physical connecting speaks volumes.
5) Finally, make it a point to tell your mate that you love them, give them hugs, and look them in the eye when communicating feelings. It feels good to be seen.
I hope you will give these suggestions a try.