Remember before you were married? I know, for some of us that may have been a long time ago. Some of you have been married for so long that it really is a challenge to remember what life was like before marriage. But probably for most of us, we first went into marriage under the misconception that it would be easy. I mean, if we love each other, what can go wrong? We should be experiencing constant marital bliss – right? But by two weeks into your marital bliss, you probably discovered that somewhere in that short time period – you misplaced the bliss.
You may immediately question yourself, when this happens, thinking, “Oh No – I married the wrong person!” But I am here to tell you that this would have happened with anyone you had married, because this is a part of real life with another person. As our relationships deepen, they also allow for genuine struggles to emerge. So, you may wonder – “Are we doomed?” Actually, it is quite the opposite. The strongest marriages are ones in which spouses recognize that their marriage is a constant work in progress. We are continually working on ourselves as well as working on growing our marital relationship. This is not a time to pack our bags. On the contrary, it is an opportunity to grow together and strengthen our connection.
Yes, there are some seasons that are hard. But if you are engaging in the struggles, with lots of grace for your mate, the connection that you can have truly can be deeper and richer. It may not be easy, but it definitely can be good!