Time and again I hear from couples who talk about their lost intimacy. It seemed to develop easily in the beginning of their marriage, but now . . . they are uncertain, intimidated, and even afraid of intimacy. But what happened? King Solomon, in writing the book “Song of Songs” in the Bible, was composing…
DetailsI recently sat with a couple in my office as they described a conflict they encountered. It seems that the husband and wife had agreed to meet at a restaurant for dinner one evening. The husband was held up at a meeting that ran long and arrived about a half hour late. This was not…
DetailsI sit with couples on a regular basis who have been impacted by infidelity. And I am not talking only about a physical affair. While unfaithfulness can certainly be sexual, it can just as easily be emotional. It can be engaged in online or in person. As I have written about in previous posts, a…
DetailsWe look at indicators all the time – the gas gage tells us the car is empty or full (or somewhere in between); the thermostat can tell us how hot or cold our house is; or the altimeter in a plane can keep us informed regarding the elevation at which we are flying. But is…
DetailsWhen life gets challenging, we all need understanding and support – especially from our spouse. While we all agree with that, or at least we think we do, I would ask, “What are we talking about?” You see when someone says “support” it is easy to think we all mean the same thing but oftentimes…
DetailsRemember as a kid when your mom told you, “No dessert before dinner,” but then she caught you eating half a dozen cookies? Most likely your response was, “Sorry.” Was it sincere? In January 2013, Lance Armstrong, the seven-time Tour de France winner, sat down for an interview with Oprah Winfrey. She asked him, “Did…
DetailsAlright – I admit – it is a sneaky title. At first glance, one would say, “Of course it’s not Ok to date if you are married!” “I mean, we would call that wrong, deceitful, cheating, unfaithful, adultery” . . . and the list goes on. And you would be absolutely correct! But that’s not…
DetailsWhen is the last time you told your spouse that you love him or her? That you appreciate them? That you are grateful for the ways they tolerate your crazy antics? Maybe it has been too long. While we know those are good things to communicate, right now doesn’t seem like a good time. I’m…
DetailsI had a client a couple of years ago who had Attention Deficit Disorder and worked remotely in his job– in other words, he worked for a company, but worked from home. Now he liked working from home because he could work whatever hours and in whatever attire he desired . . . . as…
DetailsI noted some interesting trends as I was reading a recent worldwide study of thousands of couples. One of the findings indicated that among the happiest couples, 85% of both men and women said those three magical words at least once a week – “I love you.” Now, you may read that and think, “well…
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