I recently sat with a couple in my office as they described a conflict they encountered. It seems that the husband and wife had agreed to meet at a restaurant for dinner one evening. The husband was held up at a meeting that ran long and arrived about a half hour late. This was not…
DetailsTime and again I hear from couples who talk about their lost intimacy. It seemed to develop easily in the beginning of their marriage, but now . . . they are uncertain, intimidated, and even afraid of intimacy. But what happened? King Solomon, in writing the book “Song of Songs” in the Bible, was composing…
DetailsWe began last week to look at the importance of intimacy in a marriage as well as how easily it can slip away. It is not uncommon for a couple to begin to experience a decrease in their intimate connections, but if left unaddressed, it can develop into an extended period of distance. For some,…
DetailsGreetings! I am Dr. Barry Ham. If you are receiving this initial “Relationships Tips Tuesdays”, it is probably for one of several reasons . . . . . . it may be that you purchased my book God Understands Divorce: A Biblical Message of Grace, sometime during the past year; or you may have signed…
DetailsYes! Co-parenting can be extremely challenging as parents frequently arrive at the table with two very different views of just what good parenting looks like. But as tough as that is, what happens if you add a divorce to the mix? If you are divorced, you are probably thinking, “Trying to co-parent is worse than…
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In a quote from a Fortune Magazine article, William H. Whyte said, “The great enemy of communication is the illusion of it.” That is an excellent picture of what so many individuals fall prey to. Your spouse wants you to communicate, so you make every effort to talk more with them. However, even though you…
DetailsIt Is 3:00 AM and it is starting again . . . his snoring. You lay in bed getting more irritated by the minute. Part of your irritation is because you can’t sleep, which of course contributes to you being tired, which in turn contributes to your irritation. The longer you listen to the snoring,…
DetailsI find it interesting to read about wedding traditions in various cultures. Some may seem to make sense – such as the practice that began in the south, where there are two wedding cakes. The second cake is called the “groom’s cake” whose design is more masculine. However, other practices such as trashing the wedding…
DetailsIt seems that we are hearing lots today about “fake news.” As I heard Denzel Washington say, “If you don’t watch the news you are uninformed and if you watch the news you are misinformed.” He went on to say that media is more concerned about being the first to report something than they are…
DetailsThere is a tribe in South America that has discovered a creative way to catch monkeys. Taking a large gourd with a long narrow neck, they put fruit inside it and place it in an area frequented by monkeys. When a monkey smells the fruit, they instinctively go the gourd, look inside and, seeing the…
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