Who Do You Trust?

As you think about that question, several people may run through your mind.  Some, as you think about them, may be scratched off of your list, while others are rock solid.  Unfortunately, individuals sit in my office almost daily, telling me of someone whom they deeply trusted only to be betrayed at some point.  Last…

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What if They have the Answer?

Everyone has struggled in their marriage at some point.  And we have all heard the elevated statistics in the U.S. for divorce for first marriages, with numbers for second marriages being even more dismal.  But what about those who successfully remain married for decades?  What if they have some of the answers? Earlier this year,…

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I Assumed You Knew

It has been a long week, working long hours with unexpected emergencies at the office, and frankly, you’re exhausted.  You are so very much looking forward to Saturday on the couch with an afternoon of college football.  As you gather your favorite snacks and beverages, you flip on the TV.  You are just about to…

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Why Should I Cherish My Spouse?

Over the decades, wedding vows have changed from pretty traditional and predictable to often very inventive.  In the more traditional vows, the word “cherish” was often included.  I still remember some of the lyrics of the song “Cherish” by the Association, performed in the 60’s. Cherish is the word I use to describe All the…

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Everybody Loses!

Divorce can be such a disaster (most of the time it is).  I know there are certainly occasions when it is unavoidable, but that is not the norm.  And when children are involved, indications are that, for the most part.  Everybody loses! I recently had a mother of two young children say to me –…

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