Most of us have heard the term “alpha” used in reference to male wolves. It conjures up the image of one who is firmly in charge, running the show, dictating what everyone should be doing. It is a picture of power and control. However, I would contend is an inaccurate characterization of wolves and the…
DetailsI love watching reruns of “Everybody Loves Raymond” in part because many of Ray and Debra’s interactions are so common to many marriages. Ray has the propensity (as do many of us) to say and do ridiculous things, resulting in Debra often calling him an idiot. Now while I don’t recommend calling your spouse an…
DetailsI occasionally have the opportunity to officiate wedding ceremonies, usually for couples with whom I have been privileged to do pre-marital counseling. I have never stood with two people who have felt that they were a poor match with each other. Quite the contrary. However, I sit with couples in my office who have been…
DetailsMy wife and I have four grandkids ranging from 6 months to 4 years of age. As I have watched the newest one with her mother, I continue to be fascinated with the bonding process. I know from watching Erica interacting with our granddaughter, just how vital and easily that connection can happen. And securely…
DetailsYou walk past a co-worker’s desk saying “Good Morning.” He responds with, “Yea, what’s good about it?” You comment to your child that he or she did a nice job on that school project only to have them respond, “Right! You don’t like anything I do.” You send your wife a text expressing how much…
Details“Jealousy is a form of delusion, based on the notion that someone’s gain is somehow our loss.” As I recently read that quote, I thought, “Hey that’s a great quote. I can’t believe they thought of that before I did. Boy, I’ll show them.” Ok, only kidding on that last thought. However, what I did…
Details“I looked forward to getting married all of my life and then it happened – however, it has been a disaster. Needless to say, it has definitely not met my expectations. I am so very disappointed.” “I remember when my wife lost her temper and said some extremely hurtful things. I was stunned and disappointed…
DetailsWe all make mistakes. Whether big or small, knowing that we made them can take us to healthy growth or unhealthy reactions. I sometimes hear individuals make statements such as, “People shouldn’t feel guilt over things that they have done.” However, I would tend to disagree with that thought. As a friend of mine from…
DetailsIt is Friday evening and you are finally enjoying an evening with your spouse without the children. You are having dinner in a romantic setting, the conversation is intimate and meaningful, you are excited to have this time without interruptions, when you hear that all too familiar text sound on your husband or wife’s phone.…
DetailsHave you ever had those times when your significant other seems upset or out of sorts? It may be that he or she is unusually quiet or they simply appear to be distant or cold. So, what do you do? Well, if you are like most of us, you ask, “Is something wrong?” or “Are…
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