How often have you felt this way? You say or do something and immediately feels as though your partner jumps down your throat, assuming the worst? For example, your mate has been talking about her desire to shed a few pounds and get back to regular exercising. Her birthday comes along and you buy her…
DetailsDo you remember the first date you had with your spouse? Now I know that in this day and time with long distance internet dating there may be some strange stories out there around first dates. But for most people, the first date was good enough to led to another and then another – then…
DetailsI have had many couples in my office wonder this very thing. Why are they in constant conflict? Why do they seem to argue non-stop? Why do they leave for work day after day, angry at their spouse? Why do they disagree about seemingly everything? What happened to this relationship that began with so much…
DetailsThere are a handful of topics that can easily derail a couple and finances is near the top of the list. Sometimes the issue is most challenging because there is just not enough money to make ends meet. But for many, the bigger issue is disagreement with how best for a couple to manage their…
DetailsOver the decades, wedding vows have changed from pretty traditional and predictable to often very inventive. In the more traditional vows, the word “cherish” was often included. I still remember some of the lyrics of the song “Cherish” by the Association, performed in the 60’s. Cherish is the word I use to describe All the…
DetailsI was recently drawn in by the words of a Pastor who wrote, “What would you do in the name of love? The best romantic comedies show us the lengths that people will go to for love. Great displays of affection, extravagant acts of passion and feeling, beautiful offerings of words and sentiment and devotion. …
DetailsLast week I shared with you some of the story of Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher a couple that was married for 86 years. Herbert died at 105 while his wife was 103. What was striking about this couple was that they did not just endure for 86 years but they vibrantly engaged in life together,…
DetailsAs Jennie sat with her friend Lisa over coffee, she said, “David is such a pig. He never cleans up his messes, he doesn’t put anything away, he gets the milk out and then leaves it on the counter – his inconsideration is driving me crazy.” Needless to say, Jennie was frustrated and felt safe…
DetailsPeople worry. Ok – not a news flash but it is a true statement. While it rarely accomplishes much, except to stress us out, we continue to do it. Some deal with worry by doing something physical – like jogging or going to the gym. Others want to talk about it, perhaps with someone they…
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