Alright – I admit – it is a sneaky title. At first glance, one would say, “Of course it’s not Ok to date if you are married!” “I mean, we would call that wrong, deceitful, cheating, unfaithful, adultery” . . . and the list goes on. And you would be absolutely correct! But that’s not…
DetailsRemember as a kid when your mom told you, “No dessert before dinner,” but then she caught you eating half a dozen cookies? Most likely your response was, “Sorry.” Was it sincere? In January 2013, Lance Armstrong, the seven-time Tour de France winner, sat down for an interview with Oprah Winfrey. She asked him, “Did…
DetailsWhen life gets challenging, we all need understanding and support – especially from our spouse. While we all agree with that, or at least we think we do, I would ask, “What are we talking about?” You see when someone says “support” it is easy to think we all mean the same thing but oftentimes…
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Poet William Yeats wrote, “The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.” How sharp do you think your senses are? If you are like most of us, especially if you live in a big city, they may have grown dull over time. I remember when I moved from…
DetailsWe look at indicators all the time – the gas gage tells us the car is empty or full (or somewhere in between); the thermostat can tell us how hot or cold our house is; or the altimeter in a plane can keep us informed regarding the elevation at which we are flying. But is…
DetailsI sit with couples on a regular basis who have been impacted by infidelity. And I am not talking only about a physical affair. While unfaithfulness can certainly be sexual, it can just as easily be emotional. It can be engaged in online or in person. As I have written about in previous posts, a…
DetailsI recently sat with a couple in my office as they described a conflict they encountered. It seems that the husband and wife had agreed to meet at a restaurant for dinner one evening. The husband was held up at a meeting that ran long and arrived about a half hour late. This was not…
DetailsTime and again I hear from couples who talk about their lost intimacy. It seemed to develop easily in the beginning of their marriage, but now . . . they are uncertain, intimidated, and even afraid of intimacy. But what happened? King Solomon, in writing the book “Song of Songs” in the Bible, was composing…
DetailsWe began last week to look at the importance of intimacy in a marriage as well as how easily it can slip away. It is not uncommon for a couple to begin to experience a decrease in their intimate connections, but if left unaddressed, it can develop into an extended period of distance. For some,…
DetailsGreetings! I am Dr. Barry Ham. If you are receiving this initial “Relationships Tips Tuesdays”, it is probably for one of several reasons . . . . . . it may be that you purchased my book God Understands Divorce: A Biblical Message of Grace, sometime during the past year; or you may have signed…
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