Over the Christmas holidays my wife and I were able to spend some time in Florida with two of our kids and their families. While we live in Colorado, which is one of the greatest places to live in the country, there are times during the winter snows that it is nice to have family…
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Well, of course information is important. Without it we wouldn’t know how to do things, how to get somewhere, and so on. So, maybe the real question to ask would be, how important is information? You see, there are limitations to the benefits of information. As my friend Pete writes in his book At the…
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In a quote from a Fortune Magazine article, William H. Whyte said, “The great enemy of communication is the illusion of it.” That is an excellent picture of what so many individuals fall prey to. Your spouse wants you to communicate, so you make every effort to talk more with them. However, even though you…
DetailsYes! Co-parenting can be extremely challenging as parents frequently arrive at the table with two very different views of just what good parenting looks like. But as tough as that is, what happens if you add a divorce to the mix? If you are divorced, you are probably thinking, “Trying to co-parent is worse than…
DetailsGreetings! I am Dr. Barry Ham. If you are receiving this initial “Relationships Tips Tuesdays”, it is probably for one of several reasons . . . . . . it may be that you purchased my book God Understands Divorce: A Biblical Message of Grace, sometime during the past year; or you may have signed…
DetailsWe began last week to look at the importance of intimacy in a marriage as well as how easily it can slip away. It is not uncommon for a couple to begin to experience a decrease in their intimate connections, but if left unaddressed, it can develop into an extended period of distance. For some,…
DetailsTime and again I hear from couples who talk about their lost intimacy. It seemed to develop easily in the beginning of their marriage, but now . . . they are uncertain, intimidated, and even afraid of intimacy. But what happened? King Solomon, in writing the book “Song of Songs” in the Bible, was composing…
DetailsI recently sat with a couple in my office as they described a conflict they encountered. It seems that the husband and wife had agreed to meet at a restaurant for dinner one evening. The husband was held up at a meeting that ran long and arrived about a half hour late. This was not…
DetailsI sit with couples on a regular basis who have been impacted by infidelity. And I am not talking only about a physical affair. While unfaithfulness can certainly be sexual, it can just as easily be emotional. It can be engaged in online or in person. As I have written about in previous posts, a…
DetailsWe look at indicators all the time – the gas gage tells us the car is empty or full (or somewhere in between); the thermostat can tell us how hot or cold our house is; or the altimeter in a plane can keep us informed regarding the elevation at which we are flying. But is…
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