How do you connect with touch? For too many, this question stirs up thoughts of – “Ok, here is where he is going to talk about why we need to have more sex.” “Well, we just can’t right now. I mean the kids are on the go constantly and any free time seems to be…
Details“When happiness shows up always give it a comfortable seat.” – Charles Dickens Neuroscientists have repeatedly demonstrated that the more we reinforce thinking in our brains, the stronger those connections become. For example, re-experiencing a trauma can lead to irrational but paralyzing fears. It is interesting to notice how things like insults, discouragement, or bitterness…
DetailsOn a past Valentine’s Day, a California based film editor gave his wife a journal. His thinking was that they could take turns writing to each other. They found that they both enjoyed this process. As a matter of fact, his wife expressed the excitement that she feels when she notices that he has replaced…
DetailsWhen is the last time you told your spouse that you love him or her? That you appreciate them? That you are grateful for the ways they tolerate your crazy antics? Maybe it has been too long. While we know those are good things to communicate, right now doesn’t seem like a good time. I’m…
DetailsI am frequently amazed at individuals who seem to believe it is their God-given purpose, to keep their spouse humble. That person will point out every mistake that their husband or wife makes, correct each perceived error, and avoid giving praise, even when it is deserved. They will then explain to me their rationale –…
DetailsYou just got home from the dentist and told your wife that he wanted $200 to fix a tooth. While he had explained to you the risk of waiting to get it fixed, such as breaking the tooth and then needing a root canal, you just don’t want to shell out the money right now. …
DetailsI can imagine what you are thinking as you read that title – “well duh, of course I have been in love.” I realize that. We have been in love with our – 1st grade teacher, the red-headed girl on the playground, the new student sitting across from us in our freshman college class, or…
Details“I met one woman in Georgia who has been married to her husband for over 60 years. After being asked for her best relationship advice, she paused and then said, ‘Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves most.” – Nate Bagley I thought about this advice as I sat this week with a…
DetailsWe look at indicators all the time – the gas gage tells us the car is empty or full (or somewhere in between); the thermostat can tell us how hot or cold our house is; or the altimeter in a plane can keep us informed regarding the elevation at which we are flying. But is…
DetailsYou have just returned from you annual physical somewhat stunned. Your doctor has told you that your cholesterol numbers are through the roof and you have to cut down your carb intake and get on the treadmill multiple times per week. More specifically, he said, “If you want to be around for your grandkids –…
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