Are You Focusing on What Truly Matters?

The first half of 2020 has certainly been different than anyone imagined going into the year. The world seemed pretty locked down, changing the way we do business. Weddings have been postponed, extended family gatherings delayed, and even graduation ceremonies were cancelled or, at best, given an alternative format. Our experience with the pandemic, hopefully,…

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Are You Driven by Guilt?

We all make mistakes.  Whether big or small, knowing that we made them can take us to healthy growth or unhealthy reactions.  I sometimes hear individuals make statements such as, “People shouldn’t feel guilt over things that they have done.”  However, I would tend to disagree with that thought.  As a friend of mine from…

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Are You Doing Good for Yourself? – Part 2

Last time, we began to look at how we can become more effective at setting our future selves up for greater success – and that principle is true whether we are talking about careers, finances, relationships, retirement, and so on. I have counseled so many clients who live with regrets: “I regret not finishing college…

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Are You Doing Good for Yourself? – Part 1

Now you may be thinking that I’m talking about some kind of self-care, such as getting enough sleep, eating healthy, exercising regularly, meditating, and so on. However, that is not where I’m headed today. Actually, I want to look at how we take care of and prepare for our future selves. I recently had an…

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Are You Disappointed?

“I looked forward to getting married all of my life and then it happened – however, it has been a disaster. Needless to say, it has definitely not met my expectations. I am so very disappointed.” “I remember when my wife lost her temper and said some extremely hurtful things. I was stunned and disappointed…

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Are You Deluded?

“Jealousy is a form of delusion, based on the notion that someone’s gain is somehow our loss.”  As I recently read that quote, I thought, “Hey that’s a great quote.  I can’t believe they thought of that before I did.  Boy, I’ll show them.”  Ok, only kidding on that last thought.  However, what I did…

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Are You Constantly Irritated?

You walk past a co-worker’s desk saying “Good Morning.” He responds with, “Yea, what’s good about it?” You comment to your child that he or she did a nice job on that school project only to have them respond, “Right! You don’t like anything I do.” You send your wife a text expressing how much…

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Are You Connected?

My wife and I have four grandkids ranging from 6 months to 4 years of age. As I have watched the newest one with her mother, I continue to be fascinated with the bonding process. I know from watching Erica interacting with our granddaughter, just how vital and easily that connection can happen. And securely…

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