Most of us have grown up hearing that “It is better to give than to receive.” And while that is a very true statement on many different levels, it also, unfortunately, has come with some pitfalls. Being on the receiving end, whether it is gifts, money, or simply kindness can be very difficult for many individuals to receive.
For some, receiving goodness from others is associated with a lack of independence or ability to take care of themselves – which they find embarrassing or leaves them feeling weak or needy. For others, especially those who have a need to be in control, receiving often leaves them feeling out of control. While we all want an element of the illusion of control, learning the art of both giving and receiving love can make the journey of life much more enjoyable.
Still others don’t want to feel obligated to give back, therefore avoiding being on the receiving end prevents that. And of course, nobody wants to appear selfish. Giving as opposed to receiving prevents that. However, not allowing someone the privilege of giving to us may in fact be selfish on our part.
I want to suggest that it is time for us to dispel some of these goofy arguments, get out of our head, and allow others to give to us. The sooner we learn to be interdependent as opposed to independent, the sooner we will be able to experience joy and spiritual richness.