Oh the things that we stumble onto when we are cleaning out. A couple of weeks ago I was going through some old books when I came across a grocery store coupon that was inside one of them. All I can figure is that at some point in time, when I was reading it, I…
DetailsHow often have you felt this way? You say or do something and immediately feels as though your partner jumps down your throat, assuming the worst? For example, your mate has been talking about her desire to shed a few pounds and get back to regular exercising. Her birthday comes along and you buy her…
DetailsDo you remember the first date you had with your spouse? Now I know that in this day and time with long distance internet dating there may be some strange stories out there around first dates. But for most people, the first date was good enough to led to another and then another – then…
DetailsI have had many couples in my office wonder this very thing. Why are they in constant conflict? Why do they seem to argue non-stop? Why do they leave for work day after day, angry at their spouse? Why do they disagree about seemingly everything? What happened to this relationship that began with so much…
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At first glance, your response may be, “I can forgive and I do forgive,” and I am sure that you do. But I’m wondering how you do at forgiving yourself? Ah! That’s a little more difficult. And there are a couple of reasons that so many of us struggle with this. First, when we make…
DetailsThere are a handful of topics that can easily derail a couple and finances is near the top of the list. Sometimes the issue is most challenging because there is just not enough money to make ends meet. But for many, the bigger issue is disagreement with how best for a couple to manage their…
DetailsI recently read an article in which journalist Victoria Loustalot was asked why, even in the information age, many people continue to seek out psychics? Her response is interesting. Humans have always grappled with a connection to something larger than ourselves. In generations past, those questions were often answered by organized religion. For many, that’s…
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That may seem like a strange question, as you are probably thinking things like – “To get away from it all,” “To take a break,” “To see new things,” or any number of reasons. But I ask that question today because someone ask me that last week. My wife and I were at a beach…
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Sitting with a couple this afternoon, I listened as the wife, in tears, talked about the repeated negative cycles she and her husband experience – and re-experience. It seems that her husband works to make changes, but after a couple of weeks, defaults to old patterns. Why? Many times it has to do with a…
DetailsOver the decades, wedding vows have changed from pretty traditional and predictable to often very inventive. In the more traditional vows, the word “cherish” was often included. I still remember some of the lyrics of the song “Cherish” by the Association, performed in the 60’s. Cherish is the word I use to describe All the…
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