Well, we all probably have at least a little of it. But some may have an overabundance. Of course, you may simply be asking – what is it? It is very common for people to mistakenly view themselves as “the star of the show.” They imagine that they are at center stage and everything that…
Details“That’s it! I knew it. My kids had ear infections or lice or something last week and I think they somehow gave it to my wife, and now I’ve got it! I should have known!” No, no, no. This is not some kind of creepy crawling thing in your ear (even though it does sort…
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When my mother-in-law was alive, she was an incredible cook and a phenomenal hostess. If you were at her house enjoying dinner, you would want for nothing. She enjoyed serving people. But sometimes she could get so caught up in the preparations and making sure everything was just right that she had trouble enjoying the…
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“Connecting practices? You mean like playing with the toys?” No, that would be K’nex (Don’t worry – I didn’t know it was spelled that way either). I am talking about normal practices that you have with your spouse, your kids, or even your grandkids. For example – do you and your spouse kiss each other…
DetailsRelationships Tip Tuesdays March 9, 2021 Do You Have a Windshield Wiper Marriage? – Part 2 Last time we began to examine whether or not we might be in a “Windshield Wiper Marriage.” This was defined as a marriage that gets the job (of raising kids) done but without necessarily interacting as spouses. Just as…
DetailsNow this may sound like a strange question. But think about it – what do windshield wipers do? You may be thinking, “Isn’t it obvious? They get the rain off of the windshield.” While that is certainly correct, I want you to visualize how they operate. “Hmm, well they are synchronized and operate together to…
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While I have been in the counseling field for over 25 years, I don’t believe that I have ever seen so many of my clients experiencing feelings of anxiety and isolation. Prior to the COVID pandemic, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reported that 20% of Americans felt isolated and lonely. The report…
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As most couples approach marriage, they usually have dreams of partnering with their future mate in ways that allow them to be companions and teammates. They hope to be on the same page. However, as time goes by, and they discover glaring differences, they often are prone to petty criticisms. For example, I recently had…
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While most of us think about the holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s) as days to look forward to, just as many often cringe when they think about what is in store for them. You see, not all family get-to-gathers always go well. You may even dread them. I have one client, who is an…
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For many couples, this can be a trigger word. I have certainly worked with spouses who are both pretty spontaneous, which typically works OK. However, the bigger challenges are faced by those husbands and wives where one is spontaneous and the other is not. There are those who like to fly by the seat of…
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