Chicago psychologist, Nicole Martinez reported that in a study of young married women, “70 percent reported that face-to-face conversations were stopped in their tracks by a partner’s phone use or even active texting.” These intrusions have been referred to by some as “technoference.” We began last week to take a look at some of the…
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I just finished a session with a client who is very much walking on eggshells. He is anxious, his stomach is in knots, his blood pressure is up, and he has been on the verge of a panic attack. Why? Because there are some issues he knows that he needs to discuss with his mate,…
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We all know what habits are, patterns that we get into as to how we do things. They become routine, second nature, things that we can just “do” without giving them much thought. Some habits are beneficial while others can be annoying, sometimes even destructive. For example, if you are in the habit of leaving…
DetailsI frequently hear frustration from parents regarding how entitled their children are. They expect all of the privileges that their family and life have to offer without having to exert any effort of their own in the process. They just can’t seem to understand why this happens. As I dig a little deeper, I learn…
DetailsIn my last Relationship post we began to look at ways that we as parents have been known to enable our child’s entitled expectations. While we may have done so inadvertently, the consequences are the same. And the only thing more aggravating than an entitled child is an entitled adult – which is what entitled…
DetailsThere is a difference between “privacy” and “secrecy.” I like my privacy. I may want privacy when I take a shower, read a book, or spend quiet time with the Lord. Privacy is important to our independent health and our overall well-being. However, secrecy is another thing. I find couples who close their laptop when…
DetailsI have an acquaintance whose husband was killed in an auto accident this past week. I found out about it because it was on the front page of the paper. While that may seem unusual, it is not if you play an important role in a major hotel chain. We were very sad for the…
DetailsIt is Friday night and you and your spouse have decided to go out for a bite to eat. What sounds good? Where do you want to go? While I know that for some, even this can be a challenging decision, choosing where to eat is usually, in the scheme of things, a relatively easy…
DetailsI recall watching an episode of “Everybody Loves Raymond,” in which we are transported back to when Raymond and Debra decided to get married. Debra talked about how she had dreamed of getting married since she was a little girl. Over the years she had thought about what she would wear, the size of the…
DetailsOk – before you start to think that this is another “Black Friday” ad, I promise – it is not. You have no doubt had your fill of those. We sat on Thanksgiving afternoon watching ad after ad each declaring the unbelievable deals that their particular store would have on “Black Friday” – beginning at…
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