People perceive us in a variety of ways. We may have a stellar reputation for quality work. Perhaps people think of you and they see someone who is always running late. Or maybe when you come to mind, other people’s thoughts go to – lazy, dependable, giving, selfish, caring, handicapped, lonely, grieving, and so on.…
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Last time we talked about the challenges that we face when a door, or an opportunity, closes but something else or another door doesn’t immediately open to us. We find ourselves, as it were, stuck in the “hallway.” It is not unusual to stand there tapping our foot, waiting for another door to open. But…
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While that might seem like a strange question, isn’t it one that motivates, or perhaps, haunts us? If we dig a little deeper we will see our tendency to take that questions a step further. We are really often asking, “How am I doing in life in the eyes of others?” Whether we are being…
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I frequently see people stuck, particularly when it comes to “purpose.” They may have made some missteps in their journey thus far, which may have convinced them that they are a failure and have nothing to offer mankind. While that seems bleak and perhaps a little extreme, that is where many go. And when they…
Details“OK, Barry has lost it this time. I’ve wondered it a few times before, but this time for sure. I mean no one wants to fail. We all want to succeed. So that is where I will put my attention. Why would he even ask such a question?” The famous Olympic figure skating champion Michelle…
DetailsIt may have been while you were running in a track meet in high school. You came out of the blocks, battled to get into the inside line, and then it happened – you hit your stride. We typically use this term to indicate that were are doing our best, firing on all cylinders, or…
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You may recall that last time we began to take a look at the ways many have given up on their dreams that were once so important to them. As they have aged, they have lost their passion and zeal for things that once mattered. I mentioned that our real priorities are not so much…
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When we were 20 years old, most all of us had big hopes and dreams for our future. They probably included relationships, careers, travel, etc. Yet the sad thing is that I regularly see clients in my office at 50 or 60, who have become jaded and cynical at the very notion of dreams they…
DetailsIt is Friday evening and my wife and I are watching a movie, when we notice an actor that we have seen in previous movies. Wondering what other movies he has been in, we quickly grab our phones to find out. We won’t spend much time searching the archives of our brains because – well,…
DetailsDo you recall times when your plans were certain (or at least you thought they were)? You were going on a hike on the weekend, or to a movie Friday night, or to some particular university to get a degree in your planned field of study. There were things to see and mountains to climb…
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