What Do You See?

During a recent dinner conversation, while enjoying some great Mexican food, my friend Ed, who refurbishes houses, began to talk about different kinds of wall texturing. In his house they have a hand troweled texturing as opposed to the sprayed type. During the discussion, he mentioned that in one room of their house they sometimes…

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Are You Kidding Yourself?

“Things will get better.” This is a phrase of encouragement that we use with regularity. And it is often very true. For example, you are sad at the loss of a pet – “Things will get better.” True. As we typically experience grief, experiences are integrated into our new normal and things do get better.…

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Want a Job Promotion?

You may be wondering, “What in the world does my relationship have to do with a job promotion?” Well, I’m glad you asked. A five year research project out of Washington University in St. Louis made some very interesting, and relevant to relationships, discoveries. The project involved more than 4,500 people, examining the relationship between…

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Are You Constantly Irritated?

You walk past a co-worker’s desk saying “Good Morning.” He responds with, “Yea, what’s good about it?” You comment to your child that he or she did a nice job on that school project only to have them respond, “Right! You don’t like anything I do.” You send your wife a text expressing how much…

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Do You Want to Put Out the Fire?

I remember when my boys were younger and we would go camping multiple times every summer. We loved to fish, hike, and at night, sit by the campfire and eat smores. I recall how much Jeremy, the oldest enjoyed methodically gathering firewood. He would scavenger the area looking for loose limbs, but he most enjoyed…

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“I Have the Power”

When my boys were young, they used to watch the cartoon series “He Man.” From those decades ago, the theme song still echoes in my head along with the picture of “He Man” standing with his sword stretched out above his head, proclaiming those words, “I have the power.” While I may not have the…

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How to Soften Your Arguments

Bret was working out in the garage when Susan came out to discuss a sticky situation with him regarding one of the children. She knew that they had different perspectives on the situation and would probably disagree on how best to handle this. As they talked (actually – argued), Bret could feel his blood pressure…

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