Author Steve Goodier shared the following story. One night, a Dodgers farm club coached by Tommy Lasorda was leading Tucson by one run in the eighth inning, but Tucson had the bases loaded with two outs. According to Don Martin in TeamThink, Lasorda decided to pep up his pitcher, a left-hander named Bobby O’Brien. Lasorda…
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I just finished a session with a client who is very much walking on eggshells. He is anxious, his stomach is in knots, his blood pressure is up, and he has been on the verge of a panic attack. Why? Because there are some issues he knows that he needs to discuss with his mate,…
DetailsFollowing the death of his mother, a rabbi once wrote: Some people say the secret to happiness can be broken down into three elements: something to do, someone to love, and something to look forward to. I had something to do – I was a rabbi, and my congregants were counting on me to function…
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The well-known musician, Yo Yo Ma, in a recent quote, said, “The pandemic accentuated that part of me that says why I am useful.” Am I useful for anything? I’m only useful if I feel I can respond to need.” There are those who quickly respond to needs, almost as soon as they are expressed,…
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“Too old for what,” you may ask. Certainly the answer can vary. Am I too old to go for a walk? I hope not. How about too old to be a gymnast in the Olympics? For me – definitely. Let’s say you are 40 years old – are you too old to play in the…
DetailsChicago psychologist, Nicole Martinez reported that in a study of young married women, “70 percent reported that face-to-face conversations were stopped in their tracks by a partner’s phone use or even active texting.” These intrusions have been referred to by some as “technoference.” We began last week to take a look at some of the…
DetailsIn part 1 of this discussion last week I talked about the difficulties we face if we allow our lives to become stuck with old wounds and offenses. We may have encountered harsh jealousy and selfish behavior from a sibling, feelings of betrayal that we felt over a cheating spouse, or the loss of a…
DetailsI sat with a single mother the other day as she expressed her anger and frustration regarding her ex-husband and a looming custody fight. As she recounted various woundings, I listened with understanding and empathy. I was about to ask how many months they had been apart when she gave an indication that they had…
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You may be thinking, “I certainly hope not.” But far too many people are. As a recent study pointed out, “That little screen is always nearby – in our pocket or backpack, on the nightstand or under the pillow – beckoning us.” The average person touches their phone 2,617 times per day. That is nearly…
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I just finished a session with a couple today where this question loomed large. This husband and wife have been married for 15 years and have a couple of kids. While they both have talked about reconciliation, the reality is that he wants to save the marriage and she just wants to escape. Why? Because…
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