They are not fun to talk about, but we all have them – difficult seasons. Marriages seem to have several of them – the honeymoon (yes, for some this can be a challenging time); the new baby years; the everybody needs to be at their fill in the blank activity (soccer practice, band competition, gymnastics…
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I see so many couples who really make a concerted effort to carve out a date night in their busy week. Some will alternate who plans a given night and invariably find themselves doing the same old, go out to dinner thing. They just seem to run out of ideas rather quickly, and with that,…
DetailsNow at first glance, you may think that the title is asking whether you are personally improving in your emotional life or whether you are continuing in some kind of pain? And while that might be a valid question, this is asking something entirely different. The question for you to consider today is more along…
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Your first thoughts may be, “Of course I’m not good enough. Most people are way more accomplished than I am.” And with that begins a journey of feeling inadequate, less than, and perhaps even a bit of a failure. Last time I wrote about the dangers of comparing ourselves to others on social media. This…
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I recently met with a client who is experiencing some struggles in his marriage. While the struggles aren’t easy, he doesn’t see them as insurmountable because he states with confidence that he and his wife are, and always have been, best friends. Some couples started out as friends before dating, while others began dating, getting…
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Now that may sound like a strange question, but I continue to see couples who are married – but aren’t friends. I sat with a client yesterday who pointed out what a great guy her husband is and how everyone likes him. But when it is just the two of them, it doesn’t always go…
DetailsHave you ever had those times when your significant other seems upset or out of sorts? It may be that he or she is unusually quiet or they simply appear to be distant or cold. So, what do you do? Well, if you are like most of us, you ask, “Is something wrong?” or “Are…
DetailsIt is Friday evening and you are finally enjoying an evening with your spouse without the children. You are having dinner in a romantic setting, the conversation is intimate and meaningful, you are excited to have this time without interruptions, when you hear that all too familiar text sound on your husband or wife’s phone.…
DetailsWe all make mistakes. Whether big or small, knowing that we made them can take us to healthy growth or unhealthy reactions. I sometimes hear individuals make statements such as, “People shouldn’t feel guilt over things that they have done.” However, I would tend to disagree with that thought. As a friend of mine from…
Details“I looked forward to getting married all of my life and then it happened – however, it has been a disaster. Needless to say, it has definitely not met my expectations. I am so very disappointed.” “I remember when my wife lost her temper and said some extremely hurtful things. I was stunned and disappointed…
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