I Have the Power

I remember when my boys were young, every day that watched the cartoon show, “He Man.”  At some point in the show, He Man would need to defeat some evil force or correct some injustice, and he would stand boldly, holding his sword to the sky proclaiming, “I have the power.”  And with that pronouncement,…

How Do You Compare?

“Well, I may not be the best parent in the world, but at least I make sure that my kids have something to eat, unlike John and Susan next door.”  “I know I could treat my spouse better, but have you noticed how Sandy talks down to her husband.  I mean, I would never do…

What is It Worth?

“Where’s my dinner?” was a line frequently repeated in the late 90’s movie “Pleasantville.”  The story was set in the 1950’s.  Every evening, at the same time, the husband would walk in the front door, set his briefcase down, and ask, “Where’s my dinner?”  All was well (for him at least), until one day when…

Get Over it in a Hurry

“The reason we got along was that Bill was deaf, and I can’t see – so I couldn’t see what he was doing all those years, and he couldn’t hear what I was saying.”  These words came from Betty as she and her husband Bill celebrated 70 years of marriage earlier this year in Colorado…

What to Watch?

Recently, an article in the Chicago Tribune addressed problems that can occur when couples don’t like to watch the same TV shows.  One person lounges in the living room watching crime shows such as Law and Order and NCIS, while the other holes up downstairs binging on the sports channel.  While an occasional watching of…

It’s Too Late

“It’s too late,” the husband exclaimed!  After a 23 year marriage, his wife had berated him in front of the kids for the last time!  It seemed that whenever they had a disagreement, she would use the argument as an opportunity to prove – that she was the better parent, the better spouse, the better…

The 3 Minute Argument

As I sat in my office yesterday, a couple recounted an argument that they had on Valentine’s Day (Not the best day to argue).  In actuality, they were both attempting to make the day romantic and special, but somehow managed to miscommunicate something that should have been minor and easily cleared up.  But it wasn’t.…

Is Your Mate Ideal?

When you read that question, what comes to mind?  When we were in high school, many of the girls thought, “Well he must be tall and muscular, have a nice car, and make at least a little money.”  The guys might have said, “She needs to be slim, cute, and have blonde (brunette, red, fill…