“So many men (and women) feel empty and unfulfilled,” begins comedian Jeff Allen. He goes on to talk about the fulfillment and accomplishments we expected to feel by this point in our adult lives. We expected to feel a deeper purpose but instead, we’ve “got nothing.” We go through the motions, and put on a…
If you have been married for a long time, you may easily recall some of your major milestones. Things like what you did on your first anniversary; that special gift he or she gave you on your tenth anniversary; the surprise 40th birthday party your mate threw for you; the unexpected long-weekend that you managed…
I recall many times, while growing up, that I would be upset with something my dad had done. I might even be fuming at something he had just said to me, but then we were going into a public situation and dad expected me to put a smile on my face. I can look at…
When most of us get married, we, at least in part, are looking for a mate who will be safe. Yet, while that may be assumed, many find themselves in marriages that aren’t safe or protective. But wouldn’t it be nice if our marriages were a sanctuary – “A place of refuge or safety.?” I…
Franciscan priest, Richard Rohr, makes the statement that most people are putting in more effort to “get to the top” than they are in finding out what is really at the top (or the bottom, for that matter). As the American monk, Thomas Merton put it, we may spend our whole life climbing the ladder…
I am so happy that you want me. I will always keep you company and stay close to your side. I will go wherever you go and I will always be available to you. Others may abandon you at times, but I never will. The only thing is – I can be a little jealous.…
Comedian Jeff Allen writes about his journey from a meaningless to a meaningful life. He tells of one incident when he got caught up just watching their gerbil. He told his wife, “Watch it. It gathers up sticks on one side of the cage and brings them over to the other side. Then when that’s…
I encounter so many couples in my office who love each other, but spend very little time together. This makes it difficult to build connection, which if they would do, would continue to fuel their love and their desire to be together. When they were dating, there seemed to be no shortage of things to…
Oops! I wrote Part 1 of this article about a month plus ago but then forgot to write Part 2. So, even though it is delayed, here is the second part of that topic. In the previous post, I talked about happiness is the byproduct of healthiness – healthiness in all domains – physical, mental,…
Some people always seem at their best while others may not appear to ever be at their best. But one thing is for sure – when you are exhausted, rarely is your energy high or your mood great. This often is a set-up for the start of a few tense words or even for an…