This is a question that many of us ponder, particularly as we get older. Sometimes the answer I hear from an employee might be, “I want to be remembered as a hard and productive worker;” from a neighbor, “as a loyal and trusted friend;” or from a parent, “that I was always there for my…
“Jealousy is a form of delusion, based on the notion that someone’s gain is somehow our loss.” As I recently read that quote, I thought, “Hey that’s a great quote. I can’t believe they thought of that before I did. Boy, I’ll show them.” Ok, only kidding on that last thought. However, what I did…
I remember playing little league baseball in 5th grade. It was my first year to play organized baseball so I had a lot to learn. I wasn’t very good at catching and even worse at hitting. While I learned some valuable lessons that enabled me to play much better as an adult, at this point…
I had a client a couple of years ago who had Attention Deficit Disorder and worked remotely in his job– in other words, he worked for a company, but worked from home. Now he liked working from home because he could work whatever hours and in whatever attire he desired . . . . as…
Back during the Christmas holidays, I had the most unbelievable experience. My wife and I were out of town and had the opportunity to spend an afternoon and evening with a couple of my cousins and their spouses. We went to one of their homes, visited in the afternoon, went out to dinner, then came…
How do you connect with touch? For too many, this question stirs up thoughts of – “Ok, here is where he is going to talk about why we need to have more sex.” “Well, we just can’t right now. I mean the kids are on the go constantly and any free time seems to be…
“When happiness shows up always give it a comfortable seat.” – Charles Dickens Neuroscientists have repeatedly demonstrated that the more we reinforce thinking in our brains, the stronger those connections become. For example, re-experiencing a trauma can lead to irrational but paralyzing fears. It is interesting to notice how things like insults, discouragement, or bitterness…
On a past Valentine’s Day, a California based film editor gave his wife a journal. His thinking was that they could take turns writing to each other. They found that they both enjoyed this process. As a matter of fact, his wife expressed the excitement that she feels when she notices that he has replaced…
When is the last time you told your spouse that you love him or her? That you appreciate them? That you are grateful for the ways they tolerate your crazy antics? Maybe it has been too long. While we know those are good things to communicate, right now doesn’t seem like a good time. I’m…
I am frequently amazed at individuals who seem to believe it is their God-given purpose, to keep their spouse humble. That person will point out every mistake that their husband or wife makes, correct each perceived error, and avoid giving praise, even when it is deserved. They will then explain to me their rationale –…