Since, at one time or another, we all get depleted, being able to recharge is important for all of us. Some things deplete us more than others. But one of the quickest things that can zap our energy is high drama people, or emotionally needy people. Extroverts may be able to handle that a little…
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We have, once again made it through the holidays. Maybe it was a wonderful time as you ate Aunt Winnell’s famous apple pie, or you hung out with your cousins playing football in the mud, or whatever traditions you may have had. On the other hand it may have been stressful because you violated rules…
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I see so many couples who really make a concerted effort to carve out a date night in their busy week. Some will alternate who plans a given night and invariably find themselves doing the same old, go out to dinner thing. They just seem to run out of ideas rather quickly, and with that,…
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Have you ever had those times when something takes place between you and your spouse, or it could even be between you and a friend – something that really bothers you and you just can’t let it go? It may be something inconsequential or it may be something of great importance to you. Just when…
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Once again, the holidays are approaching. For some that brings up vision of delight, while others are looking forward to escaping town and hiding out for the duration. And I certainly understand both perspectives. But what if you and your partner were to try a few new traditions this year – some things that would…
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I don’t think that any of us begin a marriage, planning to become just roommates. I mean, we may have had roommates in college or when we first moved out on our own. But I have never met anyone who said, “I think I want to get married so I can have a roommate.” When…
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If you have been married for a long time, you may easily recall some of your major milestones. Things like what you did on your first anniversary; that special gift he or she gave you on your tenth anniversary; the surprise 40th birthday party your mate threw for you; the unexpected long-weekend that you managed…
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When most of us get married, we, at least in part, are looking for a mate who will be safe. Yet, while that may be assumed, many find themselves in marriages that aren’t safe or protective. But wouldn’t it be nice if our marriages were a sanctuary – “A place of refuge or safety.?” I…
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I am so happy that you want me. I will always keep you company and stay close to your side. I will go wherever you go and I will always be available to you. Others may abandon you at times, but I never will. The only thing is – I can be a little jealous.…
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I encounter so many couples in my office who love each other, but spend very little time together. This makes it difficult to build connection, which if they would do, would continue to fuel their love and their desire to be together. When they were dating, there seemed to be no shortage of things to…
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