Now that may seem like a strange question. You may be thinking, “I don’t want to ‘use’ my friends. That wouldn’t be good.” And I agree. I am asking more about the role that your couples friends play in your own marriage. For example, I know of couples who feel as though their mate never…
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I just finished a session with a couple today where this question loomed large. This husband and wife have been married for 15 years and have a couple of kids. While they both have talked about reconciliation, the reality is that he wants to save the marriage and she just wants to escape. Why? Because…
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“Well, that depends – what’s the challenge?” Oh, no need to worry. It’s not eating something disgusting like eating a dish of bugs or scaling the face of Half-Dome in Yosemite. This should actually be pretty doable. “Ok. Well what is it?” you may ask. It is being kind to your spouse. While some may…
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As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I strongly believe that marriages can be saved much more frequently than they are – if the two people involved will honestly do the work that is needed. However, I recognize that in a society that is all too toxic and does little to encourage marital longevity, divorce is…
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I sat with a couple yesterday when the wife asked this very question. Her husband had secretly shredded their finances, spending all of their money and running up debt. She never had a clue – until the overdraft notices began to arrive by phone and mail, from the bank. She was livid. She had been…
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Most of us have grown up hearing that “It is better to give than to receive.” And while that is a very true statement on many different levels, it also, unfortunately, has come with some pitfalls. Being on the receiving end, whether it is gifts, money, or simply kindness can be very difficult for many…
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This is really true. No one calls me up to say, “Our marriage is terrific and we aren’t having any problems but we would like to come in and pay you money – just to visit.” I have never once received a call like that. As a matter of fact, I don’t usually hear from…
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I often get a variety of responses when I ask a question like this. Unfortunately, some may respond with, “I had dreams for my marriage when I was younger, but those are long gone.” Others might say, “I will deal with my dreams sometime in the future.” In talking with my financial advisor recently, he…
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What if I could teach you in under 100 pages, steps that that could improve your most important relationships forever? Would you want it? On October 25th, my newest book, Relationship On Purpose: 8 Strategies Guaranteed to Improve Your Marriage or Significant Relationship, was released. I believe so strongly that these strategies can absolutely change…
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Ok, now that I have your attention – this is not really about voting . . . but it is about single issues. I am reminded by a couple that was in my office yesterday. They are stuck on a single issue. It doesn’t really matter what the issue is – it is the fact…
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