Last time I talked about what it takes to make a date night a reality (Which can be challenging). Intentionality becomes important at times in getting all of those necessary details coordinated. In discussing some of those strategies with a couple in my office this week, they raised a different but related question – What…
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I see many couples in my office who struggle to find a consistent date night. It looks good on paper, but when it comes to making it happen, things creep in that so easily derail it. And if the couple has kids, it’s even more difficult. Most couples agree that having a date night is…
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If you have been married for any length of time (probably anything longer than two weeks), you know how easy it is to get out of sync. Oftentimes, we know what it feels like, even if we can’t quite put our finger on what the problem might be. This can be very frustrating and we…
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We have all heard that phrase from time to time. Whether our parents told us that with regards to practicing the piano, or our coach uttered those words as it related to a sport that we may have played – those words may still continue to ring in your ears. But how about applying them…
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In four days our country will celebrate it’s 250th birthday. I am old enough that our 200th birthday doesn’t seem all that long ago – but I digress. This Fourth of July will be a special one and people will celebrate in all kinds of ways – with parades, back-yard bar-be-ques, re-enactments of historical events,…
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I love doing pre-marital counseling. I have had the opportunity to work with couples from the ages of 19 to, most recently 81. And no matter the age, everyone comes with expectations. For the younger couples, it can be naïve expectations, such as – they will always be romantic, never have any negative thoughts about…
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Well, it’s that time of year when the kites have come out, the days are longer, and swimming pool “Noodles” are selling at big box stores. It’s a time for outdoor fun. Kids are playing in parks while adults do . . . what? I’m not quite sure. As a kid, summer was a fun…
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You and your spouse are working on a project, putting a table together. It is going pretty well. You ask an innocent question as to where a part goes, and without warning, he or she responds with an impatient snarky comment. Does that ruin the afternoon? Do things go sour? Oftentimes it is not even…
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I remember a few years ago when my father-in-law was in the hospital during the final days of his life. His thinking was getting fuzzy and confused. My wife and I had hardly left the hospital when we get a phone call from him. My wife answered, concerned that there was a problem, but he…
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Last time, we began to look at flexibility (or the lack there of). This morning I want to take a look at ways in which greater flexibility can enhance our relationships. I recently had a client who told me her husband had said to her that he needed all of her tax documents (I am…
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