Now that I have your attention, you may be thinking a variety of things. Some may say, “Nothing is better,” while others may think, “Lots of things are.” Regardless of which camp you may fall into, sexual intimacy, when approached with love in a lifelong relationship, is potentially one of the most bonding activities a…
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Franciscan priest, Richard Rohr, makes the statement that most people are putting in more effort to “get to the top” than they are in finding out what is really at the top (or the bottom, for that matter). As the American monk, Thomas Merton put it, we may spend our whole life climbing the ladder…
DetailsWhat? Where? When? Why? What is the meaning of life? Where am I going? When will it all make sense? Why am I here? These are the questions that have preoccupied the great thinkers and philosophers of the ages as well as millions of other people. I had a professor in graduate school who would…
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You may be thinking – “Energy – what’s that?” I watch my grandkids, who have seemingly endless reservoirs of energy and wonder how can I get some of that? Well, being 4 years old would help. But the truth is, we don’t have to settle for no or low energy all of the time. Now…
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I know, you are probably thinking, “Who in the world is Phil and why would I care what he does?” Great question. Phil Allman Jr. is a tennis player in Colorado Springs. But he is not just any tennis player – he is a 99 year old tennis player, who plays at least twice a…
DetailsDo you ever wonder, if you could be a fly on the wall at your office, your home, your friend’s house, or even your church – what would you hear people saying about you? Would they speak of your kindness and generosity or are they more likely to be discussing your self-centered arrogance? Do people…
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I love doing pre-marital counseling. I have had the opportunity to work with couples from the ages of 19 to, most recently 81. And no matter the age, everyone comes with expectations. For the younger couples, it can be naïve expectations, such as – they will always be romantic, never have any negative thoughts about…
DetailsRecently, an article in the Chicago Tribune addressed problems that can occur when couples don’t like to watch the same TV shows. One person lounges in the living room watching crime shows such as Law and Order and NCIS, while the other holes up downstairs binging on the sports channel. While an occasional watching of…
DetailsIt’s been a long and stressful day at work. You come home, looking for a little relief, support, perhaps even some affirmation. But what you get is . . . more stress, unmet expectations, invalidation, and down right meanness. Today it crosses the line of your ability to tolerate and you say – “that’s it. …
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