Are You on the Same Team?

I just finished a counseling session with a couple who talked about wanting to be on the same team, but then everything they discussed demonstrated that they are clearly fighting for their individual agendas. They are far from embracing a “team” concept. In a marriage we are two individuals who “become one”, creating a new…

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Are You Offers of Help Rejected?

You come home from work and find your wife despondent. You ask “What’s the matter?” and she unloads on you about what one of your grown children said to her that left her feeling rejected. Wanting to help, you indicate that you will call that child and get this straightened out. But to your surprise,…

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Are You Nearing Burnout?

Burnout has been defined as, “an extreme state of psychological pain.” “It’s a response to facing prolonged, chronic stressors that go beyond your ability or available resources to overcome.” Professor Michael Leiter of Acadia University in Nova Scotia states that burnout has three components – “overwhelming exhaustion, feelings of cynicism, and a sense of discouragement.”…

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Are You Missing in Action?

“So many men (and women) feel empty and unfulfilled,” begins comedian Jeff Allen. He goes on to talk about the fulfillment and accomplishments we expected to feel by this point in our adult lives. We expected to feel a deeper purpose but instead, we’ve “got nothing.” We go through the motions, and put on a…

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Are You Lost in the Weeds?

I feel as though I am in the weeds today. What do I mean by that? Do you ever plan your day or your week, expecting to make great headway on your meaningful and significant goals – only to get derailed? Perhaps you are checking your email and you come across one that winds up…

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Are You Looking at the Big Picture?

The following story is told by Dr. Richard Carlson and is fitting for us to consider when we find ourselves getting bogged down in the minutia of our daily life. I heard a story about two workers who were approached by a reporter. The reporter asked the first worker, “What are you doing?” His response…

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