For most couples, the giving and receiving of an engagement ring is a memorable event. This is usually followed by an exchange of wedding rings, which signifies the commitment that the individuals are making to each other. But I wonder how people view their ring’s significance? There was a recent article asking people about their…
Details“There are just two things I’d need to find out everything I want to know about everyone: 1) Let me see them drive; 2) Let me hear them talk about marriage . . . . That’s going to tell me exactly your relationship to the world.” – Jerry Seinfeld Most of us would probably agree…
DetailsI recently read a quote, “Trust winter when the plant says nothing.” While we probably don’t give our plants much thought in the winter, unless we are farmers, they are still there. They may appear dead but concealed within them is the power for new life. In the spring they will grow, produce, and blossom. …
DetailsDuring a recent dinner conversation, while enjoying some great Mexican food, my friend Ed, who refurbishes houses, began to talk about different kinds of wall texturing. In his house they have a hand troweled texturing as opposed to the sprayed type. During the discussion, he mentioned that in one room of their house they sometimes…
DetailsAs I crawl out of bed in the mornings and make my way into the bathroom, I turn on the light and glance into the mirror. Fortunately, what I see first thing in the morning gets at least slightly better before I leave the house. But part of the reason that it improves is because…
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Another way of asking this question might be – what do you think about? Or what do you focus on? Psychologists have documented some of the benefits of regular meditation, such as clearing the mind, reducing anxiety, increasing calmness, and so on. Some individuals will focus on a word or a phrase and perhaps repeat…
Details“She is such a pig. I mean, she leaves messes everywhere.” He continues, “I feel like I work all day and then come home and have to do everything.” “I can’t believe you are saying that,” she replied. “Yesterday when I got home I fixed you dinner and cleaned up everything. So, I don’t know…
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I encounter so many couples in my office who love each other, but spend very little time together. This makes it difficult to build connection, which if they would do, would continue to fuel their love and their desire to be together. When they were dating, there seemed to be no shortage of things to…
DetailsA New York University researcher reported last year that in a study which allowed people to bend the rules (cheat), individuals were more likely to do so in order to avoid loss rather than to make a gain. I experience this application to marriage on a daily basis. As I encounter couples in my counseling…
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This may seem like a strange question. I mean, if we’re honest, we all want to be special to someone. But I’m not talking about that. I am talking about being special in the sense of exceling at something. You may want to be a gifted sport’s figure, a talented musician, or even a financial…
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