Are You Just Too DIfferent?

I see couples on a daily basis and most often they are individually very different from each other. One person is quiet while the other is more outgoing; one is spontaneous while the other plans out everything; or each are on opposite sides of the introvert/extrovert scale. People tend to marry people who are at…

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Are You Invested?

Your financial planner might ask you if you are invested in the market, are you diversified, or do you at least have some savings in the bank for a rainy day. But I am not talking necessarily about your money but rather your most important relationship. Are you invested? You might respond with, “Well, yeah,…

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Are You in the Hallway?

Last time we looked at some of the challenges that we experience when we suffer losses and even the efforts we make trying to avoid them. But no matter how hard we try to dodge them – if we love (people, pets, etc.), if we embrace opportunities, if we invest in things – we are…

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Are You in the Change of Fall?

As we hit that magical date in September when summer officially ends and fall begins, we are aware of changes in a dramatic fashion.  Here in Colorado, mountainsides of Aspen turn golden.  Trees in the northeast are vibrant with a variety of colors.  We clearly notice that the light of day is shorter while the…

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Are You in a Dry Place?

Comedian Jeff Allen writes about his journey from a meaningless to a meaningful life. He tells of one incident when he got caught up just watching their gerbil. He told his wife, “Watch it. It gathers up sticks on one side of the cage and brings them over to the other side. Then when that’s…

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Are You in a Difficult Season?

They are not fun to talk about, but we all have them – difficult seasons. Marriages seem to have several of them – the honeymoon (yes, for some this can be a challenging time); the new baby years; the everybody needs to be at their fill in the blank activity (soccer practice, band competition, gymnastics…

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Are You in a Date Rut?

I see so many couples who really make a concerted effort to carve out a date night in their busy week. Some will alternate who plans a given night and invariably find themselves doing the same old, go out to dinner thing. They just seem to run out of ideas rather quickly, and with that,…

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Are You Hurting or Healing?

Now at first glance, you may think that the title is asking whether you are personally improving in your emotional life or whether you are continuing in some kind of pain?  And while that might be a valid question, this is asking something entirely different.  The question for you to consider today is more along…

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Are You Here for Self or Others?

Recently, at an event in Orlando, Denzel Washington said the following: “It [the Bible] says in the last days we’ll become lovers of ourselves. The number one photograph now is a selfie. So we all want to lead. We’re willing to do anything – ladies and young men – to be influential . . .…

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