Last time we looked at some of the challenges that we experience when we suffer losses and even the efforts we make trying to avoid them. But no matter how hard we try to dodge them – if we love (people, pets, etc.), if we embrace opportunities, if we invest in things – we are…
DetailsAs we hit that magical date in September when summer officially ends and fall begins, we are aware of changes in a dramatic fashion. Here in Colorado, mountainsides of Aspen turn golden. Trees in the northeast are vibrant with a variety of colors. We clearly notice that the light of day is shorter while the…
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Comedian Jeff Allen writes about his journey from a meaningless to a meaningful life. He tells of one incident when he got caught up just watching their gerbil. He told his wife, “Watch it. It gathers up sticks on one side of the cage and brings them over to the other side. Then when that’s…
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They are not fun to talk about, but we all have them – difficult seasons. Marriages seem to have several of them – the honeymoon (yes, for some this can be a challenging time); the new baby years; the everybody needs to be at their fill in the blank activity (soccer practice, band competition, gymnastics…
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I see so many couples who really make a concerted effort to carve out a date night in their busy week. Some will alternate who plans a given night and invariably find themselves doing the same old, go out to dinner thing. They just seem to run out of ideas rather quickly, and with that,…
DetailsNow at first glance, you may think that the title is asking whether you are personally improving in your emotional life or whether you are continuing in some kind of pain? And while that might be a valid question, this is asking something entirely different. The question for you to consider today is more along…
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Recently, at an event in Orlando, Denzel Washington said the following: “It [the Bible] says in the last days we’ll become lovers of ourselves. The number one photograph now is a selfie. So we all want to lead. We’re willing to do anything – ladies and young men – to be influential . . .…
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Your first thoughts may be, “Of course I’m not good enough. Most people are way more accomplished than I am.” And with that begins a journey of feeling inadequate, less than, and perhaps even a bit of a failure. Last time I wrote about the dangers of comparing ourselves to others on social media. This…
DetailsWhat a depressing thought to wake up to on a Monday morning. I know – it can be but depression is not where I want to take us today. Yet, the question remains – are you going to die? Now it is easy to respond with, “Of course. We are all going to die, but…
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I recently met with a client who is experiencing some struggles in his marriage. While the struggles aren’t easy, he doesn’t see them as insurmountable because he states with confidence that he and his wife are, and always have been, best friends. Some couples started out as friends before dating, while others began dating, getting…
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